Nov 10 2008
You learn new things everyday
And I’ve learnt something valuable this past week.
It’s that regardless of how much you hold someone in high regard, they’re bound to disappoint you in one way or another. I don’t mean this in a cynical way, but it is pretty much Gospel truth. I’m just telling it like it is.
Human beings are fallible creatures. We aren’t perfect. The sooner we realise this, the less agony we’ll go through. At least, that’s what might occur in theory. But the best of us, who aren’t as jaded as the general populace, will continue to regard others with a wee bit of hope that they will live up to some expectations.
I find this particularly true of children. The more you expect from them, whether it be with regards to their behaviour, academic results, etc, the more they will try to live up to them. And as a result, there’s great growth.
Perhaps I should apply this concept to teenagers and adults.
I have been thinking about whether I was unneccessarily harsh this weekend. I was curt and sounded incredibly upset over the phone, which was not quite Christian of me. I’ve apologised, but yet I still feel things could have been handled better. Something needs to be done about my habit of verbal merlioning when I’m annoyed or pissed off.
The other party still seems to be brooding over it all. It doesn’t feel terrific to know that. No doubt he needed to be chastised over the incident that occurred. However, I somehow feel that it’s almost like an “us vs. him” scenario as there were a few of us involved. I realised that as adults we tend to show our disapproval in ways that teenagers don’t appreciate. I should know. I was one some time ago. I used to harp about how idiotic adults could be and now I’ve turned into one of those. What an irony.
I need to handle situations like these better.
Poor dude. I hope he puts it behind him soon and moves on. I will when I know he’s alright.
In other news, the new place is pretty fine and dandy. I’ve moved in comfortably and am in the midst of sorting out all the crap and getting new furniture to accomodate the volume of said crap.
I should never buy bags again. Or shoes.
A view of the kitchen. Because the other messes are far too embarassing.
